The 3Rs - Regulate, Relate, Reason

The 3Rs - Regulate, Relate, Reason

Nov 17, 2023

Nov 17, 2023

My first encounter with Dr. Bruce Perry’s concept of Regulate, Relate, and Reason was through parenting research. Yet, as I've learned, its implications extend far beyond parenting, offering profound insights for us as adults—especially in navigating personal traumas and everyday challenges. This approach not only fosters emotional resilience but also bridges the gap between understanding our past experiences and improving our current emotional wellbeing.

The 3Rs: A Pathway to Emotional Maturity

Regulate: The Cornerstone of Emotional Wellness Regulation isn't confined to childhood; it's a lifelong skill. As adults, facing a work conflict or dealing with past traumas, our ability to regulate our emotions is key. When we're regulated, we're more capable of responding thoughtfully instead of reacting impulsively. This balance is vital for mental clarity and physical health, as prolonged stress can weaken our immune system.

Relate: The Power of Empathy Relating is about empathy and connection. In our adult lives, this skill is invaluable. Whether it’s empathizing with a colleague's perspective or supporting a friend, showing empathy not only strengthens our relationships but also nurtures our own emotional health, creating a buffer against life's stresses.

Reason: The Art of Thoughtful Decision-Making The final step, reasoning, is about making decisions that are both empathetic and informed. In adult life, this involves weighing emotional and logical factors, leading to decisions that are considerate and effective, whether in our personal lives or in professional contexts.

Applying the Three Rs in Adult Life Consider a conflict with a loved one. Instead of immediately reacting, first regulate your emotions through techniques like mindfulness or deep breathing. Then, relate by striving to understand their perspective. Finally, engage in reasoning to collaboratively find a resolution that acknowledges both viewpoints.

Conclusion: Dr. Bruce Perry’s Regulate, Relate, and Reason framework transcends its origins in parenting. It's a holistic approach to managing our emotional and psychological health. By embracing these principles, we not only bolster our emotional intelligence but also positively influence our overall well-being, including our immune system. This approach empowers us to navigate life's complexities with greater resilience and empathy.

Sending love and respect,

Dr. Holly

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